So youve done your research, weighed your options and thought long and hard about whats best for yourself and your family. If youve settled on divorce, we know its something youre taking seriously and a decision thats not easy to make.
Perhaps the most difficult conversation to come is the one you need to have with your spouse to let them know how youre feeling and the conclusion youve come to.
As your partner in family law matters, wed like to offer some guidance on how to approach the situation.
How to Tell Your Spouse The Difficult News
- Go over the conversation in your head so that you can decide on your ultimate goals and what you hope to achieve from the conversation. Do you want to simply tell them how youre feeling or do you want to begin to make an exit plan for the marriage that involves their input? If children are involved, youll also want to discuss how youre going to let them know and include your partner in that conversation.
- Remain sensitivechances are, you arent catching your spouse off-guard, but thats always a possibility as well as the fact that they may not have fully anticipated this conversation. This likely wasnt an easy decision you made, so its also going to be difficult for them to come to terms with at first. Consider thisif the roles were reversed, ask yourself what youd react like, and put yourself in their shoes for the experience so you can better decide how to go about things in a mature way.
- If you dont think its going to go well or feel unsafe, consider doing so with a mediator present or a therapist. Its important that you feel completely safe speaking with your spouse, and if you think they may react in a violent way, whether its verbal or physical, you should not be alone with them for that.
- Remain centered and confident. This is the decision youve come to, so you need to convey it correctly and firmly. Practice visualizing the conversation and speaking without hesitation so your spouse can hear you loud and clear.
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Our legal team has years of experience helping clients of all walks of life get through their divorce efficiently and effectively, coming out the other side with their needs and goals met. During the coronavirus pandemic, were happy to be offering FREE remote consultations and appointments for clients, meaning well be able to help you through this process from the comfort of your own home.
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